Our Smudged Johari Window

User Rating: 5 / 5

Star ActiveStar ActiveStar ActiveStar ActiveStar Active

Everybody has a blind spot. In psychology, this is called a section of the Johari window (named after its inventors Joseph and Harrington). It's the stuff others know about you that you don't know about yourself. I cringe in horror at the thought of what people see through my Johari window... people with social anxiety spend so much time *hiding*. It's a worthless pursuit, because we are generally seen anyway. I have a hazy idea of what my blind spot might include... overprotectiveness as a mother, selfishness, being judgmental, etc.  But obviously I don't see the ramifications of my blindness clearly, because- yeah, it's a blind spot.

Read more

Fear Less: Local History

Star InactiveStar InactiveStar InactiveStar InactiveStar Inactive

For the last year, I have been tossing around this idea for a project. It includes two of my favorite things: local history and suspense novels. Near the northern edge of the Sheldon National Antelope Refuge is an abandoned homestead called the IXL Ranch. Since visiting it last year, I have been unable to get its haunted remains out of my mind. 

Read more
A photo of me as a sensitive baby, five beautiful generations of anxious women

Parenting Socially Anxious Children

Star InactiveStar InactiveStar InactiveStar InactiveStar Inactive

So here's the thing about parenting: nobody says it, but deep down I think we get it. WE DON’T KNOW WHAT WE ARE DOING.  I mean, think about it. Virtually every step of parenting comes with absolutely no previous experience. 

Read more

Five Tips for Coping with Criticism

Star InactiveStar InactiveStar InactiveStar InactiveStar Inactive

This recently happened to me. A good bit of criticism. I actually paid people to do it, but still. :) I entered my book in the Published Nonfiction category in the 2017 Oregon Christian Writer's awards contest. "Humble brag" alert: It is now one of three finalists!  Good news, amazing, how does that happen?

Of course, that's not what I'm choosing to focus on. I'd rather dwell on the critique sheets I received from the judges. You know... criticism.  I specifically signed up to be judged, spending the money to send copies of my book to judges for that very reason. Yet, how dare they! :)  The following five tips aided my criticism recovery time tremendously. I hope they help you too.

More